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Tuesday, a mom of four in England sealed her fate with a click of the mouse:
Hayley Jones changed her Facebook status from "married" to "single"
and was fatally stabbed by Brian Lewis, a jealous boyfriend, according
to the London Daily Mail.
Jones isn't the first to meet a tragic end after a seemingly innocent
Facebook update: In a 2008 case, Wayne Forrester, a truck driver in London,
stabbed his wife Emma to death for the same reason: she'd become "single"
on Facebook four days after he left their home, according to the BBC.
While a public posting of one's marital status rarely ends in a violent
death, it can elicit feelings of helplessness, revenge and anger in the
"Single or married are just words, but when you put one of them up
on Facebook, it's like telling the whole world," says Dr. Lisa
Rene Reynolds, author of "Still A Family."
"The Internet is far better than any bar for word to spread about
a relationship ending. It's one thing to go around town saying you're
single but it's a very different thing to post it on Facebook. "
Her children found Jones, 26, stabbed a few days after she changed her
status on the social networking site, according to the Daily Mail. Her
killer, a 31-year-old ex-teen sweetheart, has been jailed for life, according
to the Mail. A week after Jones changed her profile, Lewis was heard telling
friends that if he couldn't have her no one else would "because
I'll kill her first."
Losing a partner or spouse is painful under any circumstances but it's
magnified when it's put out on social networking sites, says Michele
Weiner-Davis, social worker, marriage therapist and author of "Divorce
"There is no higher form of rejection than when one person decides
to leave and the other person has no veto power," she says. "The
devastation that the person feels is primal. We are wired to be connected
to other people and when one person decides they're no longer interested,
it shakes our identity."
Announcing one's intentions on Facebook is "the ultimate rejection,"
she says. "The person tends to think that it means they're not
lovable. It can be very unraveling."
Most Facebook users don't look death in the eye when they indicate
a change in their relationship status and may not even post it. But for
many people, getting it up on Facebook is important because people like
the idea of being famous, says Dr. Scott Haltzman, psychiatrist and the
author of "The Secrets of Happily Married Men" and "Eight
Keys to Building a Lifetime of Connection and Contentment."
"There is something about going public that makes people feel validated
and more real," he says. "Putting something on Facebook, for
many people, is like having your name in the newspaper. It's like
getting public recognition for yourself."
But that recognition can be dangerous when an unstable ex with serious
control issues sees it. "There can be rage and jealousy," Reynolds
says. "And in some instances, it becomes a domestic violence concern."
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